Friday, April 27, 2012

How to Attract a Woman

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There are plenty of rules and advice for getting a girl to fall inlove with you. This is not about those rules and advice. This article focuses on basic concepts that can be used to strengthen a girl's feeling of love for you. It is love, after all, so allow this to be more of a fluid guideline.


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Open your eyes. Women are everywhere and many women are looking to fall in love. If you want a girl out there to fall in love with you, chances are a girl wants someone out there to fall in love with her. Don't get hung up on having one particular girl fall in love with you - maybe the feelings just aren't there! Your chances of making a girl fall in love are better if you get to know more girls, and give their love a chance to blossom, than if you try to "force" love on a girl who just isn't feeling it.

Don't set expectationsBecome like a romantic Buddha. Become desireless. Practice non-attachment. Expect nothing from the girl. This is not to say don't want the girl, it is just don't expect the girl to want you in return (which means you cannot be disappointed, only pleasantly surprised). Love thrives in the absence of pressure (in the form of neediness and clinginess).

Show her how lovable you are. People don't seem to systematically decide who they fall in love with. It often comes with time, and in that time you need to show the girl that you are worth being around. This is the fun part! The only way this will work, though, is if you believe, on at least some level, that you are lovable and worth being around. It's very difficult to fall in love with someone who thinks badly of themselves.

Give her space. This step can be looked at in many ways and can get distorted easily. It isn't about playing hard-to-get. The point is to give the girl the control of what happens next. This step isn't about ignoring her so SHE has to call you, or avoiding long conversations with her to torment her into loving you. Just allow her to live her life outside you. Allow her to see a movie without you. Allow her to be without you and she will then decide to love you on her own terms.
  • For some practical tips on doing this, check out How to Tame a Free Spirit.
  • If you're shy, you might end up giving her too much space. You still need to express your interest in her (flirt with her, touch her, and when the time is right, kiss her). Just don't smother her. Give her some time to reflect on those moments and realize how awesome they were.

Find out what she likes and do it with her. If she's into museums, take her to one she hasn't been to and have a tour guide take you through the history. If she likes hiking find a trail that you two can spend the day walking. If she wants to travel overseas, save up so that you two can make the trip. Or maybe she likes something more modest like going to the library to read once a week. Whatever she's into you should encourage her and do them with her. This will show her that you support her ambitions and goals and she'll appreciate your company. Even if you don't like doing it, the fact that you like her is why you should do it. It isn't always about you. Unless it's something you are totally against (like going to see every new scary movie that comes out), you should at least either offer to go with her or plan to do the things she likes with her.

How to Encourage a Woman to Fall in Love with You

Make her notice you. She'll know your name in the future, and greet you in public, and so on.


Take your time. If she gives you her number, perfect, but don't beg for it. Call her when you get her number, but not too much. Some days, let her have a chance to call you! This will show her that you guys are willing to keep in contact.

Compliment her when she does something smart or kind; it's important that she sees that you appreciate her positive traits. Don't overuse compliments though! Compliment her too much and she'll suspect you're trying to sweet talk her.

Make the effort to get to know her. She will appreciate your interest in what makes her tick.

Gain her trust. You don't necessarily have to be her best friend, but do be a friend. Let her talk about her feelings with you, and in return try to do the same. Respect and support her when she's opening up to you emotionally.

Be friends with her family. Being a family friend is a good start. You don't want to get off the wrong foot with her family. They sometimes have the power to change her mind if they don't like you. Visit her family and start a good conversation. Nothing like how's the weather. Talk about something you think would interest them. Read the front page of the paper so that you will know what is going on in this world. Then you will have something to talk about and you will not have to try too hard! Relax!

Get her a small gift that she would like. Maybe she would like some flowers or a pretty bookmark. If you don't know what she would like, try and figure it out. Here are some meanings women might attribute to various objects--
  • Ring - Commitment
  • Hand-Drawn Portrait - Commitment
  • Stuffed toy - Puppy Love
  • Flowers - You think she's pretty.
  • (Note) Do not get her something that might scare her or that she might not need or even like.

Meet her friends. Meeting her friends means you're a step up! This means she's willing to accept you into her life. Don't push her to meet them though, let her one day ask "Would you like to meet my friends?" whereupon you quickly answer "Sure!" (If she has friends that are women, do not become extreme friends with them, be polite, but not extremely friendly, as this will make her think you are "interested in" her friends.

Be yourselfsmile and be honest. You'll find with anyone, just being you is a 100% sure fire way to knowing if you are meant to be or not.

Go out of your way to show her that you really care. Don't try too hard but be honest.

Tips

  • When you say you are going to CALL, just do it.
  • Never talk negatively about her friends, even if she might be. Just be an ear when she needs one.
  • Surprises don't always have to cost something.
  • Drop the three day calling rule. Don't leave her waiting!! Girls hate that, it leaves them confused.
  • Sometimes you have to let them call you
Warnings

  • Don't mock something she believes in. (Example, she wants to become a Radio City Rockette, or wants to fly to the moon). Believe in her, assure her that whatever it is she wants to do, you're by her side one hundred percent. Of course, if it's something life threatening, share your concern with her.
  • If you do love her, decide on the right time to tell her. Ask her in little way (Without revealing your true intention) on how she feels about people confessing their love for her. If she says sometimes she wishes someone would say that to her, by all means go for it. But if she says that if someone said those words (I love you) to her, it would feel weird, awkward almost. Then you know to wait a little, but don't put it off for long, sooner or later you have to admit your feelings.
  • Try not to get into arguments about silly things. Of course it's the fire that keeps the relationship alive, but have too many arguments and she'll feel like it's not worth it if every second you're going to argue about something minor. On the other hand, don't appear weak to her. Stand strong, but still uphold that fact that you have strong feelings for her.